GOING DOWN

"I pierced my tongue, so now what?"...  That was the
subject line of an email I received a while back from a
girl who had come to terms with her newly discovered
sexuality and had revealed her attraction to a schoolmate.
Their relationship had progressed from typical first time
lesbian experimentation to petting, to mutual
masturbation, which also yielded the first orgasm for this
girl.  They seemed to have reached a plateau and she was
desirous to take things to the next level.  She wanted
desperately to experience cunnilingus but was
simultaneously terrified at the prospect.  So terrified
that she had not even broached the subject with her
girlfriend.  From her description of her experiences with
this other girl, it seemed to me that her fears stemmed
mostly from inexperience and the unknown rather than
anything having to do with their relationship or
opposition from her girlfriend.

The following is the (amended) reply I emailed to this
girl.

I had subsequently received other similar emails from
other women.  Interestingly, the fears and apprehension of
the younger girl seems to be shared by many older women as
well.  Many are bi-curious, and some feel they are
lesbians but have not come to terms with it yet - several
were married women.  I recall one in particular that read
much like the first email I had received, however, this
woman was in her forties and was presently married to her
husband of 21 years.  She told me she had been
inexplicably enamored with the idea of licking a woman's
vagina, but was too terrified to act on it.  This physical
desire as well as the opposing internal conflict was
beginning to consume her and she felt that if she didn't
do something she was going to explode.

So I dedicate this work to these ladies and the others in
similar circumstances.

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Going down on another girl for the first time can be one
of the scariest moments in a girl's life - but it can also
be one of the most fulfilling.  I recall reading about one
girl's first time licking her girlfriend's pussy - she
related that all her apprehension and repulsion melted
away as she watched tears pouring from her lover's eyes in
the aftermath of her orgasm, recalling that the experience
left such a sweet taste in her mouth ;-)

Cunnilingus is first about giving, and with such
selflessness comes satisfaction and pleasure to the one
giving, as well as the one receiving.  So the act becomes
one of mutual fulfillment, just as the girl I mentioned
ultimately discovered.  I believe this is something that
is unique to two women who share this act of love.

I'm going to assume your girlfriend is comfortable with
the idea of experimenting with oral sex.  If it the first
time for both of you, I would talk about things beforehand
and plan an evening to take this important step (yeah I
know this sounds a bit sterile, but spontaneity can come
later).  This way you will both be comfortable with the
way things are progressing and won't be surprised.  On
that night spend extra time in foreplay, deepen your
intimacy, build the sexual tension so that she is
literally anticipating the taste of your vagina and the
feel of your lips on her pussy.

You stated that you have masturbated each other, what I
don't know is if either of you has fed the other her
sticky fingers afterwards.  This is a good way to develop
an appetite for the taste of pussy.  If she is hesitant to
lick you down there, then you go down on her first.  After
she comes, kiss her (she should be comfortable kissing you
like this), this will introduce her to the flavor of pussy
in a less threatening way.

As she becomes more familiar with your flavor and scent
she will become more relaxed at the idea of tasting your
pussy directly.  Move slowly and don't push her, make sure
she is ready to take the plunge.  If not, you may want to
learn with a more willing partner - consider a college-
aged girl that may have some experience, or possibly a
teacher, coach or neighbor with whom you are close - many
married women are willing (or even eager) to experiment.

Let me pause and address those of you married or otherwise
heterosexual women reading.  For you the biggest obstacle
may be finding someone to share this experience with.
However, this is more easily remedied than you may
realize.  Chances are you are acquainted with, if not
close friends with, a woman who would love to have you
between her legs with your tongue in her vagina, and she
might jump at the chance to taste your pussy as well.  It
could be a coworker, a bored neighbor, the soccer mom on
the sideline, the checkout girl at Wal-Mart, your
daughter's teacher, or even someone from church.  If you
don't seek her out, you may never know the opportunities
that you let slip away.  Be bold, get out of your comfort
zone, take a chance and take the first step.  Maybe she
has been sending you little hints already - a lingering
glance, a revealing outfit, an accidental touch.  Or are
you going to be content just fantasizing about licking
another woman?

Now then, the initial idea of going down on a girl's pussy
may be objectionable or seemingly wrong to many girls,
even dirty or repulsive to some.  This may be the case
with you and/or your girlfriend.  In reality, it can be
one of the most beautiful and satisfying experiences two
women can share.  There are many hindrances to this
special act, such as society's arbitrary sense of normalcy
and right vs. wrong, as well as a girl's own sense of fear
at the new and unknown.  All I can really offer is to say,
"trust me, you will NOT regret it".  I know that is of
little practical help, but I assure you, you will feel
less fearful and more confident and affirmed after you
have taken the "plunge".

You need to find a place where you can both be comfortable
and undisturbed.  And you want plenty of time because this
is not something to be rushed, and so that you can
experience everything and have time to cuddle and bask in
the afterglow of sexual bliss with your girlfriend
afterwards.  Plus... I assure you, two girls can do this
for hours!  If you are young, this can be difficult, you
may have to use your imagination.  If you can't be alone
in one of your houses due to parents or siblings, then a
car can work (assuming one of you is old enough to drive),
although it will be quite cramped and can be limiting.
Another option is to find a secluded area in a field,
woods, park or playground.  Bring blankets to spread out -
a couple of sleeping bags will work great and provide a
softer surface.

With all the prior mentioned hindrances, you sure don't
need any additional hindrances that can be avoided.
Consider hygiene, which is easily addressed.  You will
both want to be clean when you share this sort of intimacy
for the first time, not allowing anything to spoil what
should be a pleasant experience.  Don't be afraid to
encourage your lover to shower prior to your special get
together.  Personally, I love fruit and herbs... on a
salad... but I don't ever recall getting sexually aroused
at a buffet (well, there was this one waitress Carrabbas,
but that's another story).  My advice is don't let
artificial perfumes overpower your natural feminine
fragrance.  You both deserve to experience the fullness of
the other's arousal.  You want to feel, taste AND smell
your lover's passion.  Clean and natural.  This will add
so much to the depth of the experience and be even more
satisfying.  Believe me when I say, you WILL develop an
affinity for the uniquely sensual scent of an aroused
vagina, possibly even an eventual craving.  By all means,
dress sexy for her.  Wear an enticing bra and panties, you
want her to WANT to go down on you from the first moment.

Now lets consider your vulva, which may be covered with
hair, shaved clean, or closely trimmed.  All three
possibilities possess unique qualities as well as some
practical differences when it comes to cunnilingus.  A
woman's vulva has an innate beauty, the intricacies of its
folds and the vibrancy of color are truly glorious to
behold.  It is unfortunate that we cannot study our own
vulvas so closely and in great detail like we are able to
do with the vulva of another woman, so this visual
experience becomes an exciting part of cunnilingus.

I have never seen a vulva that wasn't gorgeous... Let me
pause for a second... The world's sense of beauty is so
screwed up; hair, eyes, lips, breast size, figure; all
arbitrary things and standards.  But looking at the vulva,
any size, shape, color, or any characteristic you can
think of is still pretty.  ALL women are beautiful when
you look at them this way.  Sorry to digress, but I think
that is totally cool!  Now, while I have never seen a
vulva that wasn't gorgeous, there were a few I was unable
to see at all because they were completely obscured by an
overly thick patch of hair.  I feel that too much hair can
get in the way of good cunnilingus.

Comparing a shaved pussy to unshaved, I would have trouble
picking a preference.  A vulva that is shaved smooth can
be such a turn on for me, particularly when it glistens
from saliva or cum.  All of it's detail is easily observed
and I just love looking at a pussy close-up.
Additionally, licking a smooth vulva is truly a treat!
The texture feels fantastic on my lips and tongue.  It
also offers increased sensitivity for the one receiving.
That being said, those of us who have graduated from
having an early-teenaged lover can find ourselves in the
undesirable position of having to deal with stubble.  The
tongue is super sensitive anyway, and stubble can feel
like you are dragging your tongue across a wood file.
Which is one of the drawbacks to a shaved pussy - high
maintenance.

Having some pubic hair can be a more convenient option.
Personally I find the sight of a closely trimmed vulva to
be just as arousing as a shaved one (particularly a blond
pussy - I just love the contrast of light wisps against
darker red labia).  Personally, I don't care for going
down on a really thick bush (and I would venture to say
that is also the case for most women).  That's what dental
floss is for ;-)  My preference is a pussy that has a
close trimmed patch above the vulva and just a little on
the side extending down no farther than the bottom of the
clitoral hood.  Closely trimmed hair requires less
frequent upkeep and is still soft to the touch (or should
I say, tongue).

I like the outer labia shaved because I enjoy licking both
inner and outer lips when going down on a girl.  Also,
when I open my mouth wide and engulf her entire pussy,
there is less chance of a stray hair catching in the back
of my throat.  If your lover does not shave her outer
labia you can spend less time on that area and the
surrounding inner thighs and primarily lick her inner
labia and spend more time penetrating her.

Next I'll address position and physical orientation.
Personally, I find it nearly impossible to remain standing
while coming.  Also, it is not unusual for two girls to
perform cunnilingus for an hour or more at a time.  So you
need to be in a relaxed and comfortable position to begin
with - preferably sitting or laying (kneeling can get
painful after 20 minutes or so).  There are a multitude of
options for how you two orient yourselves and there are no
rules.  And variety IS the spice of life, right?

However, there are a couple of suggestions that I want to
make that have a legitimate basis.  While women often
receive significant stimulation from having their labia
licked or a tongue sliding in and out of the entrance to
her vagina, there are two pleasure spots that top the list
of hot buttons.  One is the inner vaginal wall, usually
the upper, front wall - which can be challenging to reach
with your tongue, especially for long periods.  The other,
and probably most sensitive spot, is the clitoris.  Both
of these spots lend themselves to easier access in a
particular orientation.  Recognizing there are differences
among women, it is generally true that the hood of the
clit opens downward which favors oral stimulation from
below, which is also the case for vaginal penetration.
Further, an upward stroke tends to splay open the labia
more easily than a downward stroke.

Another important consideration is the structure of the
tongue and three resulting factors.  One, the tongue's
natural power stroke is in the upward direction.  Two, the
most sensitive part is the top surface.  Three, the top
surface also has the greatest texture and is capable of
providing the most stimulation to the vagina.

All things considered, the most natural and effective
angle of attack is having the tongue licking upwards into
the pussy.  This orientation still allows for many
positions.  For example, if your lover sits on your face,
you would have her facing towards your head.  I'll say
again, variety is good and this is not meant to be a rule,
so having her face away is fine - in fact, required, if
you want to transition into a 69 (an awesome experience to
be sure).  But having her sit on your face is not a
position I would recommend for a long oral session anyway.

My recommendation is to have your girlfriend laying down
on a bed (or couch) and you lay between her legs -
particularly if you are new lovers.  Besides the fact that
you could comfortably eat her for several hours in this
position, there a some critical advantages that only this
position affords.  In this position you can both watch
each other.  A pillow under your lover's head or back to
prop her up can help.  She will be able to stroke your
hair as you lick her, and she can help move your mouth to
the perfect spot.

You can also hold hands like this which can serve to
transmit more of her orgasm and share her release with you
as you feel her grip tighten and her arms pull you.  This
fosters greater emotional closeness.  Look her in the
eyes, let her see you smiling up at her as you taste her.

The CRITICAL ADVANTAGE in this position is that she can
see your face when she orgasms.  Scientists have shown
that at the height of orgasm, when endorphins are
released, a woman who looks at her lover will create a
deeper emotional bond.  The image of your face will be
associated with that pleasure and ingrained in her psyche.
You want to experience this with your girlfriend, and you
want her to have that image of you at the moment her
vagina lets loose.  I'm not exaggerating - this is true
(it is similar to the physiological effects of addiction).

So now you are ready to get down to it.  When you go down
on her for the first time, go slow and experience her
fully.  Take time to look at her vulva.  This is probably
the closest view you've ever had of a vagina (including
your own).  Look at its beauty, its detail, its texture.
Each location will bring her a different type of pleasure.
Don't be fearful, trust your instincts to guide you.  You
already know how to pleasure her - it was planted within
you from birth.  This is not a strange place that you find
yourself - there is something very familiar as you realize
you are both created in the same image.  She is your
reflection.

Breath deeply and you will smell her arousal - there is
not a more feminine scent in the world.  Softly place a
kiss on her inner thigh - listen and you will hear a sigh
of expectation.  Plant a kiss further out, rolling your
head so that your hair flows onto her vulva - feel her
slight shudder.  Kiss her outer labia with a brief, tender
kiss - as if to claim her.  Now without hesitation, kiss
her there once more, but this time linger, pressing your
tongue into the crease of flesh between her thigh and
labia - you will feel her legs spread open for you.

Now make love to her as you would want to be made love to.
Let her pussy and yours become like one.  Imagine the
sensations you are creating in her and try to feel them
within your own pussy.  Explore her fully.  Don't rush to
penetrate her vagina just yet - you'll have all night for
that.  Let your tongue lap at her labia.  Alternate
between small, localized kisses and lengthy licks along
her mons and just barely between them.  As your tongue
slips slightly between her inner labia, you will begin to
taste the fruit of your labor.  Tease her clit, but avoid
extended contact so early into your time with her.
Instead lick and kiss her hood moving upward and planting
kisses on her lower tummy.

She'll let you know what she likes.  If she is moaning,
you're in the right spot.  When you feel her hands on the
back of your head pulling you into her, then you know that
you are doing all the right things (I find that to be a
major turn-on).

Work your way back down and using you lips only (no
teeth), capture her inner labia and suck them into your
mouth.  Use your tongue to press her flesh to the roof of
your mouth, then flick across them, feeling them become
engorged from your touch.  Enjoy her this way for a while,
then open your mouth wide and cover her entire vulva with
your lips.  Now press your tongue between her labia and
extending it as far as you can, enter her vagina for the
first time.  You have finally reached her hidden
sanctuary.  Revel in that realization as the taste in your
mouth becomes so much sweeter, and your lips and tongue
begin to burn.

Drawing your tongue out slightly but still keeping it deep
between her inner labia, firmly lick up the full length of
her slit to her clit and back down again.  Alternate
between this licking and then stabbing your tongue back
inside her vagina.  Keep a slow enough repetition rate
that the entrance to her vagina has time to constrict back
closed so that the pressure is maximized each time you
penetrate her vagina.

She will probably come like this, if she does it will be
hard for you to keep your tongue inside of her.  Just keep
your mouth firmly pressed to her pussy (hold her thighs).
Now you can go for her clitoris.  Use your lips and tongue
to flick and pinch it.  You can draw it into your mouth -
if she hasn't started coming yet, this will do it for
sure.  When she is at the peak of orgasm, move your mouth
lower, or just open wider, so that you cover the lower
part of her vulva.

Hopefully you will be rewarded with a flow of her precious
honey.  With some girls, it can actually spurt into your
mouth.  With most there is a definite flow - some like a
river, some like a creek.  But if your lover is more like
a dripping faucet, then dip your tongue inside her and
draw out her cum (you don't have to go very deep, her
inner labia will be drenched).  Drink all she has to offer
you - she may very well ooze for several minutes.  I love
to lick between my lover's labia and swallow all of her
for extended periods.

After her orgasm, continue to lick her gently, avoiding
the most sensitive spots.  If she is still with you, like
her hips are gyrating and her legs are still wide open for
you, then penetrate her vagina with your tongue again.  If
she responds, then keep going and bring her off again (and
again, and again).  This is one of the most rewarding
aspects of lesbian lovemaking, chained orgasms and long
periods of physical intimacy.

When she is completely spent and can't take anymore
(usually she will tell you or push your head off her
vagina), then slid up to her and kiss her, letting her
taste herself on your lips and in your mouth.

Then lay back and let her bring you to heaven, over and
over.

You are in for an incredible experience and your life will
never be the same.  What was once unknown will become
familiar, and your trepidation will be transformed into
enthusiasm - this, I promise.

Well, I hope this helps.  Now get down there and have some
fun.


luv,
Ginny